I hope you had a great day and a wonderful week so far! There is something I thought about the past days and I thought I’d share my thoughts (a lot of thinking) with you…
I stumbled upon an Instagram Account. Cotton candy dreamy pink photos smile at me and get my attention. For a few seconds, I scroll down the feed and get caught in the dreamy pink (sunset kind of) atmosphere. A picture of a sunset here, popping champagne bottles there, everything extremely neat and mixed and matched to create the perfect picture for a picture perfect Instagram Feed. “This one is nice, but it’s not reality. At least not my reality, is it? There’s not everything pink and picture perfect around me.”, I suddenly hear a friend of mine say. I can feel, how I literally wake up from my cotton candy dreamland, look up to her and then back to the feed- with different eyes. Yes, she was right. I got caught be the atmosphere, created by this color scheme. I dreamed myself away for a few seconds but this wasn’t my reality either. There were a few pictures with which I might have been able to identify myself but most of them were just like in a catalogue. But life is not choosing out the best from a catalogue, is it?
I thought about it and wrote my thoughts down. Why do we love to show only the good and perfect sides on social media and even more: why do we put way more time in CREATING a moment, than in really living right in the moment and capture them authentically?
I understand that social media is a perfect place to spread positive thoughts and feelings, to inspire others and to let people dream away from their every day trouble. This is something, every influencer wants to achieve and so do I. I also understand that there are cooperations which make you think about your pictures a bit more, because they might be sponsored and the picture is your own creative way to transport the company’s message. A lot of us are artists which love to create and capture special moments. Don’t get me wrong here, that’s not what I am talking about.
But my life doesn’t have a filter, so why should my Instagram?
Yes, a harmonic Instagram Feed is nice to look at and pictures all dreamy pink have something fascinating, don’t they? What I really miss in a lot of accounts nowadays is the face of reality. Don’t get me wrong, I like to edit my pictures and to bring out the colours a little bit more, to play with lights and shadows or to accentuate different parts, too. I also can’t free myself from playing around with filters back in the days. But let’s be honest, life has no cotton candy pink filter, or is so overexposed that one barely recognises your face. Life isn’t cotton candy pink (even though I feel like that sometimes) and all set in one single color scheme, so why should my Feed?
When did we start to “fake” in the name of perfection and where is the sense in changing a picture so much, that the clothes don’t even keep their real colour anymore? When did we become so obsessed with creating an imagine of which we know there is a slightly (huge) gap to reality? Wouldn’t we safe a lot of time, energy and nerves, if we would go back to reality a tat more?
We want people to get inspired and feel happy, when they scroll through our pictures but what I also want is to be authentic and real. I want people (and especially younger generations) to know, that not every scene in life is all glam and glitz or pink and fluffy. Life has its ups and downs and with every downside, we learn and grow a bit more. We are all wonderful and beautiful in our own way and I don’t want to be one color scheme because that’s just not me. Sometimes, life is colourful, sometimes it’s pink indeed (talk about pink velvet furniture heaven!), on other days it’s just black and white. My mind can get a bit chaotic every now and then and so does my life…
Let’s be chaotic together and celebrate reality a bit more. <3
With that being said… Dear filter, I loved you and played around with you a lot. You took away my insecurities, made me hide behind you, and change what I wanted to change. But when I now look at you, I don’t see myself anymore. The woman I am today, doesn’t need you anymore. She loves herself, she loves the colours reality uses to draw life and she loves authenticity. Thank you for the past couple of years. It’s not about you, it’s about me but… I just can’t be my true self with you so… I break up with you, sorry. <3
What do you think? Do you like to “overdo” it with filters? Do you like to scroll through totally filtered feeds or prefer authentic “schemes” which are just accenturated? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
xo Deborah Chloé